Stephy Says 💋 I wasn’t going to give any attention to the whole Chris Brown fiasco.
However, Stephy Says 💋 here’s my stance. Sure, Chris Brown caused some controversy by using “nice hair” in his lyrics. I can understand why someone would be offended because I understand all views & perspectives.
Here are my thoughts:
1. He said nice hair not good hair. That’s open for interpretation, and only he knows what he means.
This outrage is coming fans with their own view of what “nice hair” is and societal views of what hair pattern is considered to be “nice.”
However, let me add, it’s usually within our own culture that we define what’s “good hair” or “nice hair.”
Let’s admit as females we see waves as “good hair” or “nice hair” over dreads. Even as females, when we see females like Rasheeda from Love & Hip Hop ATL or any celebrity with slick edges or a bouncy girl pattern, even down to our own friends, we tend to say things like “girl, you got some good nice” or immediately begin wishing for hair like theirs. The trick I found is just complimenting hair as “looking nice.”
We (both genders) have been conditioned on both sides to think that nice hair or good hair is seen as Traci Ellis Ross hair. The thing is, I see more outrage when men use the term versus when women use it. If we are going to be offended, let’s be consistently offended. 🤷🏽♀️
There wasn’t this much outrage when Beyoncé’s lyrics included, “Becky, with the good hair” in which she chose the word “good” rather than “nice.” 🤷🏽♀️
2. It’s just hair & with as many weave & wigs are available, if you feel offended by the “nice hair” lyrics or don’t feel like you fit the description, then 🗣go buy you so nice hair.
3. It’s his personal preference. Just as I prefer thicker & solid men. No offense to the slim ones, it’s just my preference for the bigger ones.
I have friends that prefer long hair or short hair, some that prefer mates with no kids, some that prefer lighter skin or darker skin & vice versa.
Could this be considered or seen as a form of discrimination or offensive? Absolutely, but it’s just a preference. 🗣Preferences are always going to be offensive to those that don’t fit the criteria.
The thing is everybody has their own preferences, & people just need to learn to let others have their preferences without the sensitivity.
4. Everyone is so sensitive nowadays, it makes it difficult for artists or anyone to name their preference without being ridiculed.
5. It’s not that deep. He’s not dating any of us sooo we should all let it go
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